There was always an underlying sense of submissiveness in the bedroom, but we never truly started exploring until this year. Now that it has begun growing its way out of the bedroom we are looking for ways to keep it at a level suitable for a PG audience.
For us, it is as simple as using the rules we are setting for public behaviour and modifying them slightly. An example of some of our "protocols" in and around the house are as follows:
1. When he comes home, stop what you are doing and greet him. Make him a drink and talk to him about his day.
2. When he says "Babe, can you just...." he isn't asking you. He is telling you subtly.
3. Master gets to play with your ponytail whenever he likes.
4. Master always cooks dinner unless he fancies one of my speciality dishes.
5. Your garter must be worn at all times (especially when out). Then, when the children are in bed the collar goes on too.
6. When master contacts through text you must reply in half an hour (except if in an exam/at doctors/in a meeting). If master is asking you to complete a task you must text back within a specified time-scale (with proof of said task completed).
7. Child related decisions must be made together and agreed upon as a family.
8. When you refer to master in front of family/friends, call him "Daddy" or "Babe".
9. If you have asked Master for something and he grants permission, always say "Thank you, Daddy/Babe"
10. Always be honest with Master and he will return the courtesy.
At the moment we have found the balance and don't wish to oversaturate the rulebook too much for fear of overdoing it. These rules work very well and slot nicely into our family life without corrupting the children or being overly archaic in their nature. We are still walking the tightrope and these rules could change as our relationship grows and we learn together.
Remember that the rules above are rules that we set together and work for us. Every couple is different in the way things are done and my advice to you would be to stay true to your relationship and your own family dynamic.
